Emotional maturity is an important aspect of maturation. It encompasses a wide range of abilities, such as recognizing emotions, processing them appropriately, being sensitive to others’ feelings, and allowing your own feelings to guide you toward healthy relationships.
Even for those of us who are inherently emotional intelligence, empaths, or extremely sensitive people, learning and honing these talents takes time. But, no matter how you’re wired, if you pay attention to your inner world and practice making judgments that respect it, you’ll reap the rewards over time.
Emotional maturity develops over time, with a mix of resistance and resilience. If you’ve been trying to live a more emotionally mature life, you’ll understand what follows.
1. You’re aware that every pain eventually fades. You can maintain that perspective while still allowing yourself to experience pain.
2. You show people the same compassion and empathy that you have for yourself.
3. You’re aware of your energy reserves, priorities, and the people with whom you want to spend your time
4. You know how to deal with negative emotions such as guilt, humiliation, jealousy, and envy.
5. You’re well aware that you can’t always attend to your feelings. You must sometimes meet the demands of the external world before returning to your inner world when you have the opportunity
6. You realize that emotional labor consumes energy.
7. You accept your wrath and understand when to let it boil and when to embrace it.
8. You recognize that people take their time emotionally opening out to new people
9. You’re aware that people experience their emotions in varying degrees of intensity, and that feeling more deeply is neither superior nor inferior
10. You are aware that everyone experiences emotions, whether they express them or not.
11. When you’re unhappy or furious, you don’t act on your immediate impulse to strike out.
12. You can recognize the various symptoms of anxiety and recognize when you avoid, procrastinate, or feel burdened down as a result of it.
13. You understand that, no matter how close you are, people don’t always want to talk about their feelings.
14. For those responses, you show empathy to yourself.
15. You recognize not everything needs your opinion
16. You know how to give someone room to speak without interrupting or expressing your own feelings.
17. You’re probably aware that kindness may take many forms.
18. You’re well aware that many of your reactions are triggered by emotional triggers from your past that have little to do with the current scenario.
19. You try to keep an open mind to everything and attached to nothing
20. You can stay curious and listen with an open heart when you don’t know how to relate to someone else’s grief.
21. You know better than to take yourself too seriously all of the time.
22. You understand that healing and growth are both messy, nonlinear, lifelong processes that you don’t need to master.
23. You Discuss Ideas, rich ideas that can change situations around for good and not people around you.
24. Depending on the person you’re chatting with and the relationship you share, you know when to communicate how you feel and how much you need to open up.
25. You don’t try to read other people’s minds or make assumptions about what they’re saying. You seek out the information you require and work with what others have to offer.
26. Take Responsibility for all that is yours irrespective of whose fault it may be.
27. You’re aware of the fundamental differences between introverts and extroverts, as well as the fact that each has their own set of abilities.
28. If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), you’re aware that there’s a separate list for you! You’ve created a little group for yourself, perhaps in person or online.
29. You recognize that a high level of emotional maturity is frequently accompanied by privilege. You make generous concessions to those who grew up in a different era or who did not have the same opportunities as you.
30. When your emotions cloud your brain, you can recognize it and choose to return to the issue with a clearer head.
31. You recognize that your outer environment and inner world are inextricably linked